Second, we as husbands need to provide for our wife what she desperately wants to know about us:

What we look to as we define our identity,
How very deep is our insecurity,
How we measure our success by our performance.  

Then our wife can understand that we need them to help us succeed:

1. A husband needs to feel his wife's admiration, 
2. A husband needs to feel his wife's support, 
3. A husband needs to feel that his wife supports him in his work, 
4. A husband needs to feel his wife's support for him in public, 
5. A husband needs to feel his wife's support through all the seasons of life.  

Common Christian Marriage Headaches

Without a growing marriage of shared life, following Christ's Word together most marriages end up with these common Christian marriage headaches: 

1. An unbiblical husband with irresponsible headship (This husband is nothing but a little boy in search of a mommy, and he seems to have found one in his wife. He is thoroughly self-centered, but manages to appear to others as a loving an devoted husband.); 
2. An unbiblical husband with an emotionally detached headship (This man is one of the most stable and even-tempered men in his community. He has been asked to serve on the boards of numerous organizations because of his organized mind and methodical way of making decisions. He is about as detached and emotionally unavailable as a father can get.); 
3. An unbiblical husband with a dictatorial headship (His idea of being "head of the household" means that nothing happens without his approval. Whenever his wife dares to question his authority or decisions, he resorts to intimidation tactics and then goes into a blind rage.); 
4. An unbiblical husband with a workaholic headship; (This man never leaves work mentally or emotionally. He lives under pressure and sprays his family with his frustrations);
5. An unbiblical husband with a spiritually apathetic headship (This husband is a believer and a church attender. But beyond that he's unresponsive to spiritual thing he never exercises spiritual leadership in this home. And that void blocks an intimacy his wife years for.)

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