So men, here is your wife’s motto:

This is my lover, this my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.

She must have you as friend and lover. “Lover” alone won’t cut it. Be her best friend. Then, and only then, can you also be her exciting lover. [3]

[1] 4:8–12; 5:1

[2]  1:9, 15; 2:2, 10, 13; 4:1, 7; 5:2; 6:4

[3] We have mentioned some important ways to make our wives feel loved, but we have not exhausted the subject. Study your wife and learn just what it is that makes her feel secure and special. A recommended book on coming to understand your wife’s needs is The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1995).

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Taken from The Five Senses of Romance by Sam Laing (Discipleship Publications International). (c) 2008 by Discipleship Publications International. Used with permission. All rights reserved.

Known for his spiritual wisdom and insight, Sam Laing has ministered to people for more than thirty-five years both in the US and abroad. He is the author of numerous books including Be Still My Soul, the Guilty Soul's Guide to Grace and Friends and Lovers. He and his wife, Geri, have a passion to help others find the joy and meaning that they have found in their marriage. They live in Georgia where Sam is a teacher and an evangelist with the Athen's Church of Christ.