After two-and-a-half decades together, Bill sees all my flaws and knows them well – yet he chooses to focus on my strengths instead. For example, Bill calls my impulsivity, “spontaneity.”  And on my end, I know Bill pretty much always runs late because he is such a “people person,” but I choose to overlook his lateness and focus on the fact that he is great at relationships. (And I ask him to come home 10 minutes earlier than I really need him!)

As I shared these simple principles, my new friend gained hope. With her teen standing beside her, she said, “We did make a commitment at the altar. I know we meant it, but I think it is time for ‘us’ to go on the front burner of life’s priorities for awhile. I want to get back to seeing him as my best friend and my lover. Maybe life will seem fun again then.”  I smiled and winked at her knowingly. I think she will rediscover her best friend and a second honeymoon might just be around the corner. 

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