April 26, 2008

The first fight Bill and I had was our first attempt to study the Bible together. How very strange is that? It is a picture of just how serious Satan is at wreaking havoc on the institute of marriage. Maybe you have had a fight on the way to church or over the topic of even going to church.

Consider these statistics:

• The divorce rate for first time marriages is about the 50% rate
• Couples who pray together daily divorce at less than 1% rate!
• Couples who pray together rate their sex life with the highest possible rating.
• Couples who attend a weekly church worship service also give their sex life the highest sexual satisfaction rating.
• Couples who have a friendship circle that believe in long term monogamous marriage tend to have long term happy marriages—these kind of friendship circles also might be found in the local church.[i]

Do you see the pattern? The more spiritual your marriage is, the more likely it will be successful and sexually satisfying. The more passion you have toward God the more you’ll have available for your marriage.

See why Satan wants to keep you from praying, from reading the Bible, from getting to church? He knows it will make a difference in your relationship for the good.

So if spirituality is the most powerful tool in building a long term happy and sexually satisfying relationship, then how does a couple go about building their spiritual life? In our newest book, 10 Best Decisions Every Couple Can Make, we give a few tools to give your love and life an Extreme Home Makeover:  

Decide to. That’s plain and simple. Decide a spiritual life is just as important as being at the kid’s soccer games. It is as valuable as that weekly golf tee time or tennis match. Time praying with your spouse each day is as vital as your daily shower or daily stop at Starbucks. Our mentors in ministry, Jim and  Sally Conway in their book, Traits of a Lasting Marriage discovered the secret to long term happy marriages. Get your pen out, get ready to write down this earth shattering discovery; Couples that had long term happy marriages DECIDED to have long term happy marriages. Duh! Seems simple in concept but extremely hard to apply in daily life. Decide today will be the day to build spiritually into your marriage.