Third, tighten your belts. We’re all shifting gears as the days of loose spending are over. Make wise decisions for how you will change old habits and still have fun. Simplify, simplify, simplify. There’s still plenty of fun you can have without spending a lot of money. Get creative in seeking ways to enjoy life without being tied to finances.

Fourth, focus on the positive. While the pundits may preach doom and gloom, choose to find positive things to dwell upon. Turn off the news. Stop reading the horrific headlines. Follow this Scriptural instruction: “Finally, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (Philippians 4: 8).

We choose what kind of attitude to bring into our marriage. Remember, emotions are contagious. If you choose to bring positivity into the marriage, your mate will likely respond in kind. If you are critical and angry, your mate will respond accordingly. Choose to dwell on the positive things in your world.

Fifth, surround yourself with support. Gather with friends and family. Maintain habits of fellowship that cannot be shaken during difficult times. Life goes on even during difficult financial times. Don’t let these challenges stop you from enjoying friends, family and fellowship.

Finally, maintain your faith. Our problems are always a matter of perspective. A limited, time-oriented perspective will cause distress, while an eternal perspective brings peace. Trusting in the world causes anxiety, while trusting in the Lord brings calm and tranquility to our troubled lives.  While we may lose material things, our faith cannot be taken from us. Choose to reaffirm your faith and draw closer to God, and He promises to draw closer to you.

Are you struggling with financial pressures in your relationship? I’d like to hear how you have overcome problems of economic hardship in your relationship, and specifically how you have done it. Please share your concerns with me at TheRelationshipDoctor@Gmail.com.

Published April 14, 2009.