We all need to get away alone and continue to talk, laugh and have fun together. It’s in those times that true connection takes place. We need to learn more about each other, our past and our dreams of the future. We need to feel at ease with each other as we face new challenges together.
If you and your spouse are both working full-time or going to school full-time it can be incredibly tough just to find the time to spend together. If you have the option, don’t have regrets over your family. You get only one chance with them. Perhaps putting off school for a season or cutting back on outside work hours will give you the time and energy you need for each other and for your family. But sometimes having one of you quit work or cut back on hours isn’t possible because that second income is needed or that degree is one semester away. In those cases, cutting back may end up causing more stress instead of less.
In cases like that, you need to make a concerted effort to have a few minutes a day just for you and your spouse. You absolutely must have at least a few minutes of alone time where you can connect. This makes your marriage a priority and gives it the preventive maintenance it needs. There will be plenty of time for some of those other activities in your other seasons of life. You can go to school later, but your child won’t be a toddler bouncing on your knee for very long.
Portions of this article were adapted from "The Great Marriage Q&A Book," Copyright 2006 by Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg, all rights reserved. Published by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.,www.tyndale.com. To order this resource or to find our more about Dr. Gary and Barb – Your Marriage Coaches, visit www.drgaryandbarb.com or call 1-888-608-COACH.
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