It is one thing to listen; it is something else to actively listen. What is the difference? Listening is generally considered to be a passive process. You listen to what someone is saying. To actively listen you pay close attention to every word spoken, asking questions to grasp the deep meaning of what the other is saying. You listen also for what is not being said or for what is said between the phrases of the speaker. The Apostle James says we “should be quick to listen and slow to speak.” (James 1:19)

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter