My wife likes florals. I prefer any and every painting of a sailboat. She likes spicy foods; I like meat and potatoes. These are only a few of the differences between us. Our task is to appreciate those differences rather than let them divide us. Each situation is an opportunity to negotiate and collaborate with each other. Scripture tells us to live harmoniously together—and this is all the more important in marriage. How are you with give and take? Do you appreciate the difference in your mate, your friends and neighbors? Take time to reflect on what makes each of us unique and appreciate those differences. Scripture tells us, “Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by doing so some people have entertained angels without knowing it” (Hebrews 13:2).

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!