It is one thing to listen, but quite something else to attune ourselves to what another is saying. In the process of attunement we not only listen, but empathize fully with what the person is saying. We “capture” the essence of what they are saying, checking in with them to assure we have understood exactly what they are saying. This may take multiple efforts and we must not get frustrated in our attempts at attunement. The reward of understanding another is well worth our best efforts. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.