My work involves escorting people from a place of defensiveness—where they choose not to see parts of themselves that need to change because of fear—and into a place of being teachable and open to change. No one wants to hear bad news about their character, but refusing to see these truths simply keeps us in bondage to them. Consider who you need to listen to, who can see aspects of your character that you cannot see, and asking them for feedback. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!