Jessica and Todd both desired to be active in ministry.  They had been married a short while and both had full time jobs and Todd was taking college classes also. 

The pastor of their church approached them one Sunday to inquire if they would be available to lead the teen group.  The couple was very excited at this prospect.  They had both been very involved in a youth group as teens.  This could be a ministry where they could really be an influence.

They submitted this opportunity to prayer and made a list of their current activities.  They realized they were not willing to give up what they were already doing. Their conclusion was, they needed to take time to invest in their relationship.  For now, that was going to take priority over leading the teens.

(Exodus 18:18) Thou wilt surely wear away, both thou, and this people that is with thee: for this thing is too heavy for thee; thou art not able to perform it thyself alone.

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!