There is little more painful than to have your trust broken. You’ve invested in another’s life only to be betrayed, violated. Perhaps it was by an adulterous affair; perhaps by a confidence betrayed. In any case, we can choose to work on rebuilding trust with the person who has harmed us, assuming they are remorseful and seek healing with us. Scripture guides us accordingly: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ has also forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32). Remembering that Christ has forgiven us can be a powerful impetus in remembering we have fallen short of God’s glory just as those who hurt us. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.