It is very tempting to slip into complaining about what someone is doing or saying to us. We are tempted to slip into whining about what others have done to us. This does no good. Even complaining to the person who has hurt us has little helpful effect. Consider instead acting out of conviction, much like Jesus did. He was not afraid to speak truth into situations, but never did so out of a complaining spirit, but out of conviction. Let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’ (Matthew 5:37). Be principled and convicted about what is important to you and share from that voice with others. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.