Friendships can be challenging. Friends inadvertently hurt our feelings. They step on our toes and we feel hurt and are tempted to pull away. You are tempted to implode—hurting yourself in the process—or explode, hurting both of you. But wait—consider having a healthy, healing conversation with them where you speak respectfully and kindly, yet firmly. Consider asserting yourself where you share your feelings as you listen to theirs. See if you can reach an agreement where you restore the friendship, growing in the process. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!