We commit hurts and wounds everyday—most unintentional, yet hurtful nonetheless. After any of these misspoken words, violated trusts, actions taken and not taken, it is critical that you make repairs. Far too many people simply try to “move on” without expressing remorse or taking action to change a behavior. Many try to scoot on by a hurt without fully appreciating the damage that has been done. If you have hurt your mate, consider how they have been wounded. Share your sorrow and remorse for the wounds you have caused. Share your intent not to harm them again and in this way true healing can occur.


Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!