There are times when I cut myself too much slack, letting myself get away with behavior I should never ignore. There are as many times when I’m hard on myself, critical of things said and things not said. Hindsight is, as you know, 20/20, but living in the here and now is much more complicated. Someone has asked the question, ‘What if the least of these is you and you are the one needing an act of kindness?’ When you make a mistake, do you forgive yourself? You are deserving of forgiveness as much as anyone. Practice forgiving yourself, again and again. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.