Relating to the same people, day in and day out, requires you to develop somewhat of a thick skin. You cannot react to every little thing that happens, every sharp word said, every roll of the eyes. There is a saying that goes, "Easy Does It." It is a wonderful thing to remind ourselves of when things are not going the way we want them to go. Easy does it. This is a wonderful thing to say when our mate doesn’t treat us exactly the way we want to be treated. Easy does it. When you begin to feel frustrated with life, remember, “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear….Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life?” (Matthew 6:25-27)

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.