Someone has said that grace is giving someone not what they deserve, but what they need. Certainly Christ did that for us, “in that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). Consider those in your relational circle. What do they need from you? Yes, you can easily think of what they might deserve, according to your judgments, but what do they need? Consider what they are experiencing in their life and what might help them. Given that you have received much grace, give much.  

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.