There is nothing as powerful in a relationship as humility. It is a contradiction, but those who seek power in their relationships will meet with trouble, while those who are humble will find healthy relating. In relationships we must give up our need to be right; we must cultivate the ability to ask and grant forgiveness. We must apologize liberally. “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble” (James 4:6).

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!