Are you a grudge-holder? When someone offends you, do you remember it? Perhaps even worse, you nurse the grudge, rehearsing it. Perhaps you even consider ways to get even with the person who harmed you. Doing this keeps you in emotional trouble and stops you from reconciling yourself to that person. Remember that love and bitterness travel on the same path. Love keeps no record of wrongs. (1 Corinthians 13:5)

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter