There is a time to speak, and a time to hold your tongue. The Apostle James says the tongue can be like a spark that sets a forest ablaze. Sometimes even the smallest comment, one we believe is innocuous can be provocative. Take time to consider whether or not to say something. Consider the impact your words are likely to have on your mate

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter