Couples often engage in power struggles. Both think they are "right" and squabble endlessly, creating division. Knowledge can be a dangerous thing, used against our mate. Be extremely careful about "taking a position" on something as love takes the higher road and lets go on minor things. (1 Corinthians 8:1)

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.