Letting Go of Arrogance. It is very easy to slip into an attitude of arrogance. Subtly, insidiously, we hold ourselves above others. We put down others ways of living, ways of doing things, even their beliefs. Doing this with our mate is a sure way of creating division and separation. Our mate feels our disgust. They feel our disapproval and push away from us. To risk coming close, your mate must feel your approval and acceptance. We would all do well to follow the Apostle Paul’s counsel: “Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you” (Romans 12:3).

 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.