In working with couples, one of the first things I ask is for them to bring an attitude of humility. I encourage them to remember that the person who knows them best is sitting next to them, and that the person best equipped to speak into their lives is their mate. While we often don’t want to, our mates have very important things to tell us if we will listen. Consider the words of Solomon on this matter: “A man (or woman) who remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will be destroyed—without remedy” (Proverbs 29:1).


Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!