It is not enough to simply be caring people, as important as that is. We are called to minister to the specific need of others. Consider the words of the Apostle Paul when he told us to speak into other’s lives, “according to their need,” adding that our words should “benefit those who listen” (Ephesians 4:29). We are to be sensitive to the specific needs of others, and minister to those specific needs. Are you aware of the needs of those with whom you live? Do you know what is bothering them, and have you tried to speak love into their life? 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!