Marissa and Bart started their marriage off on shaky ground.  She believed Bart would take care of her and provide all she needed to be happy and fulfilled.  Bart saw a beautiful woman who just needed his guidance.

Bart felt the best way to encourage Marissa was to point out her faults and tell her how she should behave, think and feel.  If she would just listen to him everything would be wonderful.

Marissa believed if she could do more for himm, show him more love he would become her knight in shiny armor and love her.

The error in thinking is that another needs to change in order to fill your needs. If Godly love is shown, both partners will flourish.

(1 Peter 4:8) 
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!