It is one thing to love others, yet quite something else to love others well. When considering others, consider what they truly need from you. What would they ask from you if they were given permission to do so? How would they like to be loved by you? Do they want your time? Give it to them. Do they want signs of affection? Show it to them generously. Don’t make others beg for love from you. Scripture implores us to “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves” (Romans 12:10).

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.