We all have people we can justify carrying a grudge against. We review the litany of wrongs done against us, ways they have harmed us, judging them even more critically then we judge ourselves. As Christians we are to love even those who bother and annoy us. One way to do this is by seeing out “enemies” as more than just people who have offended us. There are larger aspects to them than just the parts that offend us, and we can love them. “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” Luke 6:26)

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.