Scripture and an understanding of personality functioning make it clear that guilt has a way of eroding our self-esteem. The Psalmist says, “My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear.” We must make quick amends to our mate when we have said or done anything harmful to them. Keeping your side of the street clean is a great way to keep your relationship healthy.

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.