No one knows you better than your mate. While you may not always like what they have to say, consider that what they say could be very useful to you. Also, consider using the issues that arise as a means to draw closer to each other. I recommend this motto: “We’re in this together and we can work it out.” If you solidify this agreement with each other, letting your mate know that you are committed to them, the information you get will be received easier. The same is true in reverse: If your mate knows that you love them and are committed to them, they will be able to hear what you have to say more readily. Marriage is the place where our issues come out and is an excellent place to grow—albeit with some challenges!

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.