When wounded it can be very tempting to take matters into our own hands and get even. At times this may take the form of outright revenge; at other times we’re sneaky and get even in passive-aggressive ways. Scripture tells us that revenge is never ours to take. “Never pay back evil with more evil” (Romans 12:17). Consider the poor testimony of paying back evil for evil, contrasted with the witness you have when you continue to love those who have hurt you. If you do this you “heap burning coals of shame on their head” (Romans 12:20).

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.