Scripture tells us to ‘let your yes be yes and your no be no’ (Matthew 5:37). This is such simple counsel and yet so hard to do. When we make clear statements about our intentions we live out our core values. Yet, others don’t necessarily appreciate our boundaries. They push back, manipulate or attempt to coerce us into changing our minds. Being firm and clear is not an attempt to control or manipulate others, but rather a way for us to live out our lives with clarity and dignity. Are you being clear with others? Do they know exactly where you stand on issues? Practice Matthew 5:37 and notice the positive changes. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.