There are many circumstances over which we have little control. But, we can choose how we will respond to situations. We can choose how we will interact with the family into which we have been born. We can choose how we will interact with co-workers, though we have little control over who works with us. We must let go of trying to control that which we cannot control, and rather focus on our response. Scripture encourages us: “For the love of Christ compels us…He died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again” (II Corinthians 5:14-15).

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!