A woman wrote to me today that she wished to take revenge on a man who had dated her for a time, expressed his love for her and then abandoned her. She felt duped, swindled and misled. She had given her heart to this man, only to be trampled upon and left confused. “How could he do this to me?” she asked. She went on to say, “I won’t let him get away with this. I’ll get even.” While taking revenge will feel good for a moment, it leaves us feeling cheapened and depleted. The Apostle Paul says it well: “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord (Romans 12:19).

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!