When you look back on your vacations, what are the events you remember? I suspect, if you are like me, it is those times when you blew out a tire on the Los Angeles freeway, the mosquitoes in Northern Minnesota, your lost wallet in New York, or perhaps something more personal—the argument you had where you didn’t talk to each other all afternoon. Discovering the humor in these events make them more palatable. Seeing the silliness in some of your actions make them tolerable, perhaps even enjoyable. It’s not that we want calamity but that we find ways to weave these events into the fabric of our lives and not let them define us. Can you laugh at some of your idiosyncrasies that have caused problems? Scripture encourages us not to take ourselves too seriously (Romans 12:3)—good medicine.

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.