Most relationship problems have one thing in common: selfishness. What would happen if we followed the Biblical directive to “serve one another in love.” (Galatians 5:13) What if we spent as much time concerned about the needs of our mate as those of our own? I believe our marriages would be transformed. Consider reflecting upon your mate’s love language, serving them and meeting their needs. Watch as they fall in love with you all over again.

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.