It is one thing to listen to our mate. It is something quite different to listen to their heart; to listen as much to what they are not saying. God has placed desires and passions in their heart. Do you know them? Do you encourage them? Do you make it safe for them to dream out loud? This can create a powerful connection between two people

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter