I’m always a bit stunned at how brutal we are with our language. I listen as couples speak harshly and recklessly to one another, insensitive to their mate. “But, I’m just speaking the truth,” one says in their defense, as if there was some honor in doing so. “But, you must speak the truth in love,” I protest, reminding them of the Scriptural imperative (Ephesians 4:15). While this often slows them, they usually slip right back into their injurious ways. Consider the impact of your words. They have the power to injure, wound and disrespect. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!