It is amazing to me how many couples choose to speak the truth, using words as laser beams into the hearts of their mate. After decimating their mate, they hide behind the phrase, “I was just telling the truth.” Your words will speak life or death into your mate.  Practice taking responsibility for the fact that words cut like a knife, or as the Apostle James says, “Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.” (James 3: 5)


Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter