Someone has said that we need to spread cheer, for everyone is carrying a heavy burden. This is so true. Consider nearly anyone you know and, if you know them well, can remind yourself of some of the burdens they are carrying. If they are impatient with you, chances are they are responding out of a heart of pain. If they are insensitive, chances are they are struggling internally. While this does not give them license to treat you disrespectfully, it can help you understand why they might act the way they do. Next time you face someone who is irritable, remind yourself of the heavy burden they are carrying. This will soften your reaction to them and perhaps even prompt you to offer cheer and kindness. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.