It is one thing to listen to our mate. It is something else to be really tuned to them. Do you know when your mate is having a bad day? Do you know how to soothe them and offer compassion? Spending time really understanding your mate, truly listening to them, creates a powerful connection. Scripture tells us to “serve one another in love.” (Galatians 5:13)

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.