We have all reached the point in a conversation where we can no longer stay tuned in and attached to our mate. Feeling flooded and defensive, we are now more preoccupied with our own feelings and internal message than that of our mate. It’s okay, under these circumstances, to gently ask for a little time to soothe your troubled emotions. It’s okay to pull back, breathe, take a walk or pray so that you can resume the conversation. In fact, this is your responsibility. Take time to get into an emotional space where you can listen attentively, non-defensively to what your mate is saying to you. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.