You have been hurt and naturally are tempted to recoil, retreating into a safer place. This is natural and in fact will protect you, but will also isolate you. To risk caring about another person is to risk being hurt. It comes with the territory. Yet, to be in relationship means risking being hurt again—not blindly, or naively, but setting up boundaries wherein you can be safe and establish a new relationship. The Psalmist declares that God knew him while he was still being formed in the womb and David states that therefore he can put his trust in God. (Psalms 139) We can put our trust in God who will lead and guide our steps. He will help us learn to trust again. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!