Filled with a bit of tension, we’re all capable of going on a rant. Rarely does anything good come from this. We are better off, as Solomon says, to “use words with restraint.” (Proverbs 17:27) We must choose our words carefully because they can be used to hurt or to heal. How are you using your words?

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.