One of the primary missing ingredients in healthy interactions is the art of validation. Simply put, this means listening carefully to them and giving validity to the way they see things, especially when it differs from how you see things. Caring for others does not mean agreeing with them, but acknowledging their right to see things the way they see them. Do you validate others with whom you relate? Do they feel validated by you?

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!