Someone has said that when the grass starts looking greener across the fence, “It’s time to water your lawn.” Good advice. Rather than romanticizing what it would be like with another mate, another job or another friendship, take care of the mate, job and friendships you have. Nurture them. Care for them. Tend to them and notice your attitude change.

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter