It has been said that everyone we meet is in need of love and kindness. What if we approached everyone as if they were desperately in need of love and kindness, and their behavior, no matter how outrageous, was an indirect cry for love and caring? Would we approach them differently? If we knew the context of their behavior, would we be more understanding? I think so. Consider seeing through someone’s hurtful behavior as an expression of their wounds---see if that changes how you approach them. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!