I cannot stress enough the importance of getting out and making yourself available, whether through technology or through more traditional methods (chance meetings, friend of friend, church, community service, activities, etc.).  It is the most important aspect in the pursuit of a relationship. 

A guy won’t know you’re available unless you make it known that you are available.  There is nothing wrong with “opportune” meetings or assertive conversations, but allow a man to be a man.  I understand that men (and I include myself) sometimes don’t take the initiative or pursue a woman in the way that a man should.  In such cases, these aren’t the “men” you would want to align yourself with anyway.

A godly Christian single woman deserves the kind of man that the Bible talks about:

• In the image of God  (Genesis 1:27)
• In the pursuit of righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance, and    gentleness  (1Timothy 6:11)
• In God’s will  (John 9:31)

“God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.  We want each of you to show this same diligence to the very end, in order to make your hope sure.  We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.  When God made his promise to Abraham, since there was no greater for him to swear by, he swore by himself, saying ‘I will surely bless you and give you many descendants.’  And so after waiting patiently, Abraham received what was promised” (Hebrews 6:10-15).

Lift up your desires to the Lord.  Let him direct your steps and show you the plans that He has for you.  Don’t discount someone just because he doesn’t fit into what you think that you’re looking for.  May the Lord give you the desires of your heart as you seek Him and someone to come alongside on your journey.

 
SHE SAID:  Well, girlfriend … I have been there.  A few years ago, I felt like it was my “time.”  In fact, at different points in my adult life, people have told me that it’s my “time” to get married.