If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal (1 Corinthians 13:1). 

And that is what I am hearing.  The resounding clanging of noise!  However far away I am from you in terms of distance or proximity, I can only hear the noise from your boyfriend’s words, actions and treatment of you.  And nothing clearly sounds like love or care or protection or provision for YOU.

Please prayerfully consider everything Cliff and I have said in our answers today.  And promise us that you will reach out to your friends and family to help you through your decision-making process.  We will both be praying for you as well!

 
HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades.  He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

SHE is … Laura MacCorkle, Crosswalk.com’s Senior Entertainment Editor.  She loves God, her family and and her friends.  Singleness has taught her patience, deepened her walk with the Lord and afforded her countless (who’s counting anyway?) opportunities to whip up an amazing three-course meal for one.  Visit her personal blog here.

DISCLAIMER:  We are not trained psychologists or licensed professionals.  We’re just average folk who understand what it’s like to live the solo life in the 21st century.  We believe that the Bible is our go-to guide for answers to all of life’s questions, and it’s where we’ll go for guidance when responding to your questions.  Also, it's important to note that we write our answers separately (we think they sound eerily similar sometimes, too!). 

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**This column first published on May 7, 2009.