Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. – Mother Teresa

With an understanding of how to find and read your social barometer, an exploration of social competency, and a study of the fine art of empathy, we want to leave you with a bit of inspiration.  We believe that inspiration goes a long way in helping you use your social barometer to engender self-giving love.

You’ll remember that we’ve said who you are is more important than what you do.  This is particularly true in your relationships.  Tips and techniques can be helpful, but a relationship ultimately rests on the psychological health of two people.  In fact, your relationships can only be as healthy as the least healthy in them. 

So we will say it again: If you want a healthy relationship, the most important thing you can do is get yourself healthy.  And we know, because you are reading this, that’s exactly what you are doing.  So with that in mind, we want to highlight the payoff for your efforts.  By recounting these payoffs to yourself on occasion, you will increase the likelihood of a more self-giving lifestyle.

When two healthy people (both tuned in to their social barometer) get together, it’s like drinking lemonade in the desert.  They breathe a collective sigh.  They relax.  They can be who they are, and they know that just being together will restore their spirits. 

Why?  Because some things – what we call the fruit of a healthy relationship – are certain.  In a healthy relationship, you can count on, at the very least, these four qualities: confidentiality, honesty, personal space (when needed), and almost always a good laugh.

The best portion of a good man’s life – his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love. – William Wordsworth